A month of jury duty, moving into a new apartment and starting a new job, pretty much sums up where we left off. Its been a wild and crazy ride the last thirty days. I have learned a lot (re jury duty), I have gained a lot, but mostly I have met a lot of incredible people. And now I am completely and utterly drained.
Which brings up the question, how do you make it through such a crazy packed schedule? Best yet, how do you make time for yourself and your family when there seems to be little time to spare?
My answer, I have no freaking clue. I get anxious, stressed, sleepless and borderline delusional just like everyone else. I have not mastered the zen way of doing things. But I have discovered ways to lessen the load along the way and make a bit of time for myself in order to stay sane. And this is how:
First, recognize what the heck is going on. Many times, I am so caught up in the whirlwind of events, I forget that I am doing flips to get everything done. Recognize when you have a lot on your plate. Take it a step further and give yourself a pat on the back for functioning so well in the midst of such ridiculous scenarios. And then allow yourself to be exhausted and worn down by everything you’re doing. Its normal to feel tired if you are overworked, undernourished, and constantly being pulled in every direction. Hello! We’re human.
Okay second, if you feel like you are going to break, stop. Just take a moment to pause. Rest that body of yours. Sing out loud. Call a good friend that is not involved what so ever in the stressful situations at hand. And laugh. Laugh hard and long. You’re going to need it. Just don’t claim your right to suffer.
Next, delegate. Delegate, delegate, DELEGATE! Spread out what is going on into days and timelines that are actually practical. For instance, I knew I wasn’t going to be able to move into my new apartment right away. Wasn’t happening. I had jury duty all day, and the days off I was working. Moving was going to have to wait until the weekends. I missed my clothes, I missed my books and my SHOES. But I had to stick it out instead of pulling all-nighters at my storage unit.
Ultimately, I felt restricted by not being able to move my belonging. Primarily because it felt like I was honoring my duties to everyone else but myself. Which made me realize it is important to do something fun when you feel deprived. For me, that is getting my nails done. I painted them lavender one week and coral a different week. I bought new music from iTunes for my commute and ate dinner with my roommate where we could catch up and giggle. All things that I needed to keep going and made the rest of the events more enjoyable.
The biggest lesson I learned is letting go. If you can’t honor some work event, social outing, or request because you are swamped, or because your RSI bothers you too much, don’t feel bad, guilty, or stressed. Stop putting all that pressure on yourself, it’s not up to you to satisfy everyone. Really, it’s going to be okay if you can’t be perfect. I am not perfect, and I do alright in life. Let it goooooooo… Relax, and repeat step two of this instructions. Then you might have your light bulb moments, too.
Everything is a day at a time. Each day brings new experiences, opportunities, conflicts, what have you. But in the end, it’s not going to matter much in the big picture of things. My good friend who is slightly older than me gave me great advice. She said, ” If I could tell you one thing, it would be don’t take life too seriously. The job you have is never the last, there are always more. It’s going to be okay.”
It has been true up to this day and I don’t see that changing anytime soon except when my job interview tomorrow will have the hoped results… You never know. We’ll see.