Light Bulb Moments

Yes I write a lot about relationships and general everyday life but let’s get the record straight: Sometimes I am a quick learner and other times I am painfully slow at getting the point. When it comes to jobs and tasks I learn fast; then I have my light bulb moments. Learning how to play the piano, be a great field hockey player, or write an excellent paper- I am speedy Gonzales in picking that stuff up.

But when it comes to the scope of life, and relationships it can take yearrrssss. I can be knocked over by the lesson time and time again but it could take me five years to understand the message. For me, it looks like this: there are days where I have a moment of clarity and the light bulb goes off. And it occurs in the most random unexpected places. Like when I am in the shower or ordering lunch. I am not kidding.


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How to Achieve Occupational Balance (Hint: Look Below)

Wait-what? Before you google it, wiki it, or bing-it (but seriously who really uses bing?), let me explain the best I can. As a grad school grad from an unknown career (Occupational therapy), I’ll gladly explain for you with no cost just like an unpaid internship. Something I’m very familiar with, unfortunately. So let’s see: how to achieve occupational balance (Hint: Look Below).

Let’s start with: Occupation.  First off, when I use occupation I mean it as being an activity that is both purposeful and meaningful. This can vary from anything from getting dressed in the morning to a hobby such as cooking or skiing. These occupations are not only essential to sustaining your life and allowing you to work but also promote wellness, identity, and mindfulness. Before you think this is “hippie-dippie hug circle” insanity, let me use an example.

One of my favorite occupations is cooking. Now cooking obviously is correlated to health as it determines what goes in and out of my body. However, how I genuinely enjoy the creative process of cooking determines how I prioritize my schedule and how I use cooking to engage with myself and others.


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To: Corporate chieftains, venture capitalists, investor relations departments, startups, and underwriters: Keep your nose clean because the best enemy you’ve ever had is going to keep sniffing around. Your future depends on it. The success of American business requires strong capital formation.

Entrepreneurial spirit, technological innovation, and a motivated workforce are useless without the ability to raise money. Just take a look at this 2016 video of President Obama, Mark Zuckerberg, and a few Entrepreneurs, I’m still impressed:

The reason the United States is the king of capital formation is because investors think they are not playing a rigged game. Investing in the public financial market requires investors to trust their money — retirement savings, college funds — to the skills of people they can’t meet and to businesses they can’t visit. That’s a huge amount of trust for 50 million people to place, and they do it routinely.

Investors would not trust the market without lawyers and journalists, the twin banes of your existence. I spent thirteen years as a class action lawyer and two years as a business writer. My personal contributions have been minor, but I have seen the inside of both businesses. I know their faults and excesses, but I also know their massive role in making it possible for you to raise money. And this is not ony true for men. Women know that too!


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Do You Claim Your Right To Suffer?

What Is Suffering? Have you ever asked yourself what it is that makes you unhappy? What is it that makes you suffer? Why do you suffer? What triggers suffering? Do you claim your right to suffer?

These questions might sound philosophical or too spiritual for your liking, but if you take the time to think about these questions you’ll notice that they are immensely important if you want to find lasting happiness.

Why? Suffering is what keeps us from being happy. In other words, it is important to know what that roadblock, suffering, is and how to find your way around it to find happiness. Suffering Is Part Of Our Conditioning.

If you’ve had a serious setback, it can be difficult to feel happy. However, that doesn’t mean suffering is the only other option. A setback most often interferes with our plans, dreams, and goals, and that is one of the reasons why people see a setback as negative and associate it with suffering. The real reason is much more fundamental, but I’ll talk more about that in a future post.


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A Job Interview is Trying…

Preparing for the interview de-stresses the scenario substantially. 78% of all nominees – no matter the amount for which they are interviewing – wing it! And often cause themselves to be weeded out along the way. So let’s what a job interview is trying…

Like so much apparently innocent questions can trip you up. You believe you’re replying themselves the way that puts you in the greatest light, but you’d be amazed at just how many people totally miss the boat. Merely to expect an interview has an optimistic consequence is not enough. That’s basically forfeiting your capacity to drive up the percent of an optimistic outcome.

As an example, in response to the question, “Why do you want to work here?” some people will say things including:

“I’ve worked in this industry for 15 years and been quite successful. The people feel I can really make a difference. The people have a proven history of direction. The people have read in the paper that the business is having some problems, and with my experience as a Director of XXXXX, I will help straighten those out.”


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Simpler Living for an Exponential Rate of Return

Matt Madeiro at Three New Leaves recently released a free ebook called Simpler. It’s a practical, to the point guide on simplifying your life along with plenty of personal anecdotes on how he did it himself. It’s all about simpler living for an exponential rate of return.

I met Matt when I emailed him to share my love of coconut related product (coconut oil, coconut water, coconut milk, etc) as a means to get healthier. He was kind enough to remind me not to discount coconut flakes (what was I thinking?) and to talk more about primal fitness, minimalism, and blogging as a whole. He also knows how nervous I was about blogging and just being honest and speaking the real truth about who I am.

Until recently, I thought being vulnerable was overrated, now I know it’s the opposite. It was largely his complete openness about anything I wanted to ask and his thoughtful responses that pushed me along to the next steps in my journey. Now that initial anxiety seems so incidental.

Those experiences showed Matt and his resource Simpler are good case studies of leading by example. See for yourself by checking out his post on how he got in the best shape of his life eating simpler. And while eating bacon and butter and loads of other stuff. Fair warning, it will annoy you if you’re leading a low-fat, low-carb, high cardio work-out lifestyle.


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May Day – International Labor Day

In my history class, I was surprised to learn that International Workers’ Day, also known as May Day, actually has its origins here in the United States. So in a few days, it is May Day – International Labor Day.

Yeah.  I had assumed for a long time that it was a holiday celebrated in communist countries like Cuba or the former Soviet Union. Boy, was I surprised to learn differently.

It was the very dawning of day when the term ‘dignity of labor’ meant something. ~ George E. McNeill

Over 100 years ago, workers had 10 to 16-hour workdays in really unsafe conditions right here in America. People died and were seriously injured on the job, which inspired Upton Sinclair to write The Jungle and our very own local hero Jack London to write The Iron Heel.

And, for this, at the end of the week, he will carry home three dollars to his family, being his pay at the rate of five cents per hour –
just about his proper share of the million and three-quarters of children who are now engaged in earning their livings in the United States.
~ Upton Sinclair


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Happy Earth Day


And also, Happy Good Friday (?) and Happy Passover, and tomorrow is Earth Day!  If one wishes happiness on those days.  But regardless, my sentiment to you is have a great day.  It’s Friday on a very Holy weekend.  Let’s celebrate what we’ve got:

  • We’ve got the Earth, which is all pretty and covered in spring blossoms and stuff
  • We’ve got wonderful and strong beliefs – no matter what those beliefs specifically are.  They’re all great!
  • We’ve got friends and family
  • We’ve got Starbucks giving out free coffee today!

Does this post sound a bit trite to you?  It’s sounding trite to me.  But you know what?  It’s spring, it’s Friday, and I’m happy.  So I don’t care of this is a bit trite.


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Weekly Wrap Up – 3/2-3/9

Well, this is going to be a fun wrap up. And also brief! Since my good old half mary on Sunday, I have not run a single mile. It wasn’t because I didn’t feel like it – in fact, I would have given anything to hit the trails. It wasn’t because the weather wasn’t conducive – we had a 60-degree day, snow, all sorts of my favorite outdoor conditions.

I didn’t run a single mile aside my 2.13 because…

I hurt myself.

Yes, I can officially say I’m a runner now, because I am fairly certain that I blew out my ankle thanks to my awesome running form last weekend.


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Is He Mad At Me?

My boss snapped at me today. I hate when he does that. It makes me hate being at a job that I actually really enjoy. Just those two or three seconds of disrespect can wash away years of great communication and camaraderie. I know, he’s studying so hard for his MBA (it’s all online and pretty affordable he says), and this may affect his behavior, but still…

Maybe a less sensitive person can just brush it aside. But I can’t. For me, those few seconds stay in my mind and slowly build into a rage. That is, if I don’t do something about it right away.

I waited about an hour or so and went into his office. I said something light to start a dialogue. He laughed and engaged. Then I just blurted out, “is everything OK between us?” Fortunately, he’s used to this kind of question because over the years of working together I’ve made us “talk it out” anytime I’ve sensed tension or conflict.


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